According to the tales of our grandparents, parents about their time when they were young, they told us that they were free, they didn't have time to pretend to be someone else, they had only one face, their own. I must tell you the truth, that is my opinion, maybe they had one face for the world out there, but the freedom, I don't think so. Maybe there is one truth also when I'm digging deeper. Is our freedom are making us slaves of our life. Because our freedom of speech, do we care about other people's feelings, because our freedom of behavior, do we hurt other people. What do we do to them or what do they do to us to lose the sense of care, help, understanding and support. Are we the reason why people are pretending?
I wrote about love and ego, as you can read in my blog posts. When we love, we don't think. we are doing everything according to the feeling, gut, emotions and pure love. How can we feel during the relationship when is pure love involved. I am not shy and not disappointed to remind you how does the love feel. I am not talking about love between partners, I am thinking love between parents and children, friends, neighbors... When we care about each other's day, how does he/she feel, laughing about stupid things, when we care when the other side is not ok, and don't have a problem to show that we're hurt. When you feel safe in his/her arms, chest, when that person what comforts you and never stops. When you are upset, his/her touch, look can calm you down. That all means, you believe him/her. Why do you pretend, then? Who can hurt you if that person treats you like that.
What do we know about that person who has nothing, but ego... Selfish, proud, nagging about everything, taking a control over that person, that person's calculating their behavior, actions... That person is just behind following his/her path, and not next to him/her to explore together.
Just, wait a goddamn minute, WHAT THE HELL DO YOU THINK YOU'RE DOING? Do you feel comfortable to be here, to pretend that is fine, that you don't have a choice. WHO THE HELL ARE YOU? A SLAVE?! Do you understand that one day, when you die, nobody will ever give a sh*t about you, you are living according to your parents rules, do they care about their parents rules. Can you stand for yourself once, who could be hurt for this?? Even if that person is hurt for your happiness, he/she gave you a favor to get out from your life.
Why you hurt people who gives you joy, because you chose to other people hurt you, pretending that egoistic love is something you like, to be "happy" to be tortured and feel good that somebody's controlling you. And when you feel real, best version yourself, without any kind of masks you are running away. That person is the last person in this world that will hurt you. Just saying.
P.S. Look yourself in the mirror, what do you see? Are you happy? What do you want? What do you feel? What makes you happy? When you are honest in front of the mirror, you are in the right way to find yourself.