Love is an amazing feeling your body can provide. It makes you feel light as a feather, makes you glow, smile, enjoy your life more than ever. I am a little bit scared knowing that fact that people are running away from it now when they really feel exactly the same thing. I am so sad knowing that fact that butterflies are deffinitely dead for this era.
How do we know if we are asking too much from our partners . What if we are asking too little? Expectations can shape the dynamics, set the tone for a relationship and cultivate an atmosphere of support and safety. However, it is important to distinguish between reasonable and unreasonable expectation to avoid emotional distress from unmet needs and impossible standards.
Brenda Gil, therapist.
WHAT ARE EXPECTATIONS?
Expectations are rules or a guide lines to make sure all the partners have benefits in the relatioship. However cultivating healthy relationships. But remember, to know wat are realistic and unrealistic expectations.
For my personal opinion, younger generations, but sadly older generations too, lost their sense of reality because of social media's lifestyle and love standards. Everybody see perfect couples there, she is perfect, perfect skin, body, rich, perfect hair with a man with perfect body, beard, bad guy tattoo, kissing each other in Maldives. Bullshit!!! And one ordinary girl or a woman, which is perfect because she is different and natural, look at that life and expects the same. Look around you and appreciate people you have in your life.
HOW TO MANAGE IT?
Love has so many different transitions in life like engagement, marriage, kids... These transitions are huge and you need to be realistic and don't lose focus on it, and women must take care of the way to treat their man, because he already has problems to be bigger man for his family, slow down, don't break his spirit.
Even relationships which are making progress to be serious one day, make each others needs and dreams. That's why you should to prioritize appreciation than expectation. Follow each other, make your way to have the same path first , match the energy, physical and sexual energy - the world will be yours.
REASONABLE EXPECTATION:
Mutual trust in each other
Equal commitment to the relationship
Shared affection and appreciation
Empathy between experiences and emotions
Friendship and admiration
Sexual connection
Understanding and compromise
Respect for differences
Kidness and generosity
Quality time
Everybody who reads it, he'll laugh i say, these expectations are like in fairytales. I have a question here, If you think like that, did you try? I tried, and I lost so much and many times, but I didn't lose the faith to give the same, because, you'll never know who will see and respect it.
If you have amazing sexual energy which is like a firework, positive energy, mutual love and respect - DON'T LET GO! If you have mutual understanding, mutual plans, when you lay down with him/her and have deep breath that mean you feel safe and peacful. DON'T. LET. GO!
UNREASONABLE EXPECTATIONS:
To be clear here, I don't want to talk about this, about top 10 unreasonable expectations, because one thing can distroy a person - losing freedom. You know that I'm talking about healthy freedom, of course. If you make limits, which are not reasonable and trying to be selfish, you are going to lose that persona anyway as much as you try to keep him/her closer to you for any coast! And the most important thing, you are not each other's mind readers, talk to each other, it's healthier than anything you can do in this world. Don't be a party breaker, whoever wants something to do with you, try to be there, to make him/her proud that he/she's trying to make something special, or, if there is no possibility, don't let your person feel rejected, try to make a compromise to find perfect time for it. Because you don't need to do like a must, it must be positive energy and respect in any part of life. I know it's difficult because of so many things, financial status, kids, problems and stuff, but don't lose that energy to try, you'll have nothing to lose.
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