Before we really begin a crazy ride of truth, and it doesn't make me happy, which will not you either, but we must face it. I think it's the most interesting now when you are on 30s and you see thinks better, you understand both sides. Sex and the city is one of the TV shows I really love, and I watched when I was on my 20s, I was watching how fabulous they are, and when I am watching the same show on my 30s I realize that is not fabulous, I see that they are so fabulous, but also really sad, looking for love and some sparkle which doesn't exist, but they are watching. But hey, in the end, everybody find real love, so will you. So, let's get started this journey. I hope you like it.
I am watching the TV show and I realized, it doesn't matter what the year is, is it 1998, 2000s or 2023, one thing didn't change, relationship problems. As we all know, every women is looking for something BIG, as Carrie. And it's really awesome to have that amazing, sexy, handsome and rich man by your side, because they are fabulous, attractive and financial stable. But there is one problem, why do we want Mr.Big to be in our life? We want to have strong man next to us, and wild, but deep inside, we just want to calm down his wildness and be proud that we made him settle down. And also, men like Mr.Big want to be free, to show themselves that they are so confident and handsome to boost their ego, and when they want to be setteled down, this is when they want to be, not because we did it. Look at Carrie and Mr. Big, whenever she wanted to be his, and be selfish about him, he always ran away, and when she wasn't there, he always comes back. Why? Because he loves her or because he doesn't have attention from person he wants? I've been and I am in this kind of problem and it's neverending story. And I've been thinking, am I a problem? Before we go, all of us are these four characters, like it or not.
Carrie Bradshaw, a woman who is a columnist, writer, came to the big city to do something big to be someone big and be heard. It is a truth, when I am older, I really see myself like her, not because I'm a "writer", but I really see myself like she sees, and the situations she've been through, I really had been and still am. She is looking for a perfect relationship she wants to not be changed, and wants to settle one Big guy who really deserves to be in her bed, in her life. She wants to be heard, she wants freedom and have fabulous life, and to have Mr. Big to stand by her side. We are all Carrie.
“We need women who are so strong they can be gentle, so educated they can be humble, so fierce they can be compassionate, so passionate they can be rational, and so disciplined they can be free.” – Kavita Ramdas
Charlotte York, amazing strong woman who really believes in love, believes in marriage, so optimistic about life, even when it's a big sh*t. She was well raised, worked in an art gallery, very educated and amazing soul. But her problem is that she wants a fairy tale. And her fairy tale is to find perfect rich man to make her princess, to live in a perfect house, to have amazing children, cute dogs. And she got everything. But, Trey McDoughal was that, but her marriage was perfect outside, but ugly and depressing inside. She was alone, she tried everything and she ended to make a perfect picture for a home magazine where she had red when she was a young girl in mother pearls, and her perfect husband took a picture for the last time to make her dream come true. But she didn't want a favor, she wanted to be forever. And after divorce, she found totally different person, who really loves her, have two amazing children, perfect marriage. So, the point is, maybe he doesn't look like a prince, but he really gave her perfect life she always wanted.
The most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you find someone to love the you you love, well, that's just fabulous. - Carrie Bradshaw
And here we go, a woman with balls. The strongest, most independent, and person who enjoyed in her own apartment, and a job as a lawyer, and you know how strong and diffcult they are. She is amazing friend, really overprotective that every woman wants to have this amazing woman. I think she is in the most difficult position as a woman who wants a relationship, but men are afraid of her. She tried everything and everyone she wants, but, nada... nothing... And one day, she met an amazing guy by accident while she waited for Carrie who cancelled lunch because she wanted to be with Mr.Big... And that evening one nothing special waiter who really gave her amazing life, love, family and she gave him stability.
I’m looking for love. Real love. Ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can’t-live-without-each-other love.
Ladies and gentlemen, here she is, one and only Samantha Jones. One woman who chose to not be a woman, she became a woman who wanted to live life like a man. To have sex without feelings, to enjoy life, boost her ego, and heal herself to not be hurt. This is her self defence machanism. She is fabulous, has a fabolous job and does everything she wanted, even men. Inside, she is very loyal friend, free. She really enjoyed having sex, be in amazing events, being with friends and having nobody to controlled her life. She tried a relationship with a woman, when she wanted to be in a relationship, but when she felt that she is controlled by her - she left. And then, Richard Wright - a macho man who had 5 hotels, who was male version of Samantha, she fell in love in him. And happened something she was afraid - he cheated of her, when she caught him. So, she became old Samantha. Sexy and fabulous with no feelings. Just sex.
While I was watching "Sex and the city" again as 30 years old woman, I figured out that 1998 or 2023 - nothing changed. Always the same problem about men and women's needs. 2023 has one the biggest problem - social media. informations are going around as fast as light, everybody know about everyone, twisted point of reality and needs are getting ever more greedy. Women are getting worse that wants to be stronger than men, to not owe him anytning, even spliting the bill, men are getting hurt by women who want to control them, everybody want to have tradition life, like getting married and have kids, and there is a question, did man want to get married, or they are getting controlled by women to get what they want and need. The sad truth that when they get what they want they forget their wife duties to their husbands. No sex, no sparkle and judging about how they have no life, no respect, and no help by man. And also, I must say, men also chose to propose, get married that woman and make kids, they need to make a sparkle too. They need to make her woman safe, loved and be helpful. This is what you need and what is your duty. Sadly, they think that their job is done here and moved on with their own life, but where is a woman waiting for your in clean sheets, fresh and cooked food, kids finished their homeworks and put in a bed. When that sparkle doesn't exist anymore, there are two ways,to survive one day after another and blame your life or just live and not hurt anyone. Healty relationship really exist, you just need to heat up the sparkle. It's not hard, just try and you'll have everything you wanted.
I APOLOGIZE IF I SAID SOMETHING BAD AND OFFENDED YOU, BUT THIS IS MY POINT OF VIEW. IN THE END, WITHOUT WOMEN, THE WORLD DOESN'T HAVE ANY SENSE, YOU ARE THE BEST, AND DEAR MEN, YOU ARE WHAT WE NEED TO MAKE THE WORLD A BETTER PLACE AND WITHOUT YOU WE COULDN'T EVER HAVE A FAMILY. SO, LET'S GIVE A TRY TO BRING BACK A SPARKLE BACK IN TREND.
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